As painful as it might seem to be the victim of an affair, you are not the person who is hurt most by adultery. Not by a long shot.
The wayward spouses are the ones that are hurt the most.
They are the ones who are flushing their lives down the drain.
They are the ones who have become walking cliches.
They are the ones who have poisoned relationships with family, friends, colleagues, and acquaintances.
They are the ones who think the fantasy can last forever.
They are the ones wh refuse to believe the fantasy is ending when it clearly begins and continues to implode.
They are the ones who lie to anyone and everyone — and especially to themselves — to sustain that illusion of reality, which is nothing more than a farce.
They are the ones foolish enough to believe that a person with loose enough “morals” to get involved with a married person could somehow be a “soulmate.”
They are the ones who deny that all of the available statistics out there on adultery might have anything at all to do with them.
They are the ones who think that their situation is special.
They are the ones who are blind to the humiliation they create for themselves daily by being public about the affair partner.
They are the ones who think that society is too “conventional” and that morality is a personal choice.
They are the ones who inevitably will hit rock bottom.
They are the ones who will have to scrape the detritus of their lives off the floor of the cesspool they have created for themselves.
They are the ones who will look back in shame and agony, and wonder how they could have been so foolish.
They are the ones who will carry that pain in their hearts.
If they are lucky, there will be a patient spouse waiting to help them heal.